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Monday, December 28, 2009

Better Single Than Sorry.

Assignment or announcement?

Assignment

Siti Rahmah has informed you about our assignment today. I hope you can do the task within the two hours.

Read the following Book Review and then discuss what you think about the topic. This can be done individually if you want.

Better Single Than Sorry

Better Single Than Sorry A frank, insightful and entertaining book by a glamorous US TV star about how there is more to life than being in a relationship for the sake of it, and how to be happy even if you are single.

'It's time for women to start telling the world - and each other - why it's better to be single than sorry. Yes, it's great to have a boyfriend or a husband, and I'm not suggesting women give up the idea of happily ever after, but I don't believe in settling... The truth is, we know what we're looking for and we must never sell ourselves short.'

Life can be fabulous on your own - the antidote to dating books!

BETTER SINGLE THAN SORRY has a simple, refreshing and powerful message. It's far better to be single than to end up with someone who doesn't make you happy just because you want to be in a couple, feel pressured by society / your friends / your mother, or you want to get married or have kids. She's all for compromising and being realistic, but she encourages women not to settle for the sake of it.

Chapters include:
* Being Single is Not a Curse
* It Takes Guts to be On your Own
* Don't Play Hard to Get - Be Hard to Get
* 50 Reasons Why it's Great to be Single
* But All My Friends are Married...
* Stop Believing You Can't do Better
* Throw Away the Picture of your Ideal Man
* Don't Talk yourself into Liking a Guy
* Basic Instinct - Trust Yours
* What you Want Versus what you Need

Some information on the author of the book.

Jennifer Schefft is well known in the US as the glamorous girl who turned down not one but two opportunities to get hitched to the seemingly 'perfect' man live on TV (The Bachelor and The Bachelorette) and caused massive controversy. Glamorous and refreshing, she has appeared on countless TV shows including Oprah, Good Morning America and the Ellen DeGeneres Show and has graced the covers and pages of People magazine and many others publications.

The topic can be really sensitive. I hope you can be really critical and able to support your ideas and opinions.

Deadline for this discussion for Group 5 is today, 29th December 2009 by 5 P.M.

I will be checking! :)

126 comments:

Anonymous said...

madam...sorry.
may i know...who's Rahmah ?
is this assignment for group 5 only or both 5 and 15 too ?

-anonymous
g15
wee.... ^^,

Anonymous said...

im rahmah
this ass is just for group 5 only because we do not have class today

rahmah g5

Anonymous said...

for all g5 please make sure if u have some of our friends number please inform them about this ass as i do not have all their numbers

rahmah

Anonymous said...

siti rahmah is our clss rep (g5).
madam has stated this assgnmnt is for grp 5 at the end of the post.

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Anonymous said...

wake up everyone join me

wanabila

Anonymous said...

yeahh wanabila. c'mon bebeh c'mon. i'm here ;-))

wanoraqila

Anonymous said...

let us stat our discussion..
heheh..

wanabila

Anonymous said...

ye im here rahmah

Anonymous said...

so aqilah i have a question you prefer to be single or married or couple??

rahmah

Teacher said...

hey hey hey... you guys are early? Anyways, For group 15, you will have your own assignment coming. Don't worry.

Anonymous said...

madam
what to do
this topic is so attractive so i`m a little bit excited

rahmah

Anonymous said...

madam

why don`t we have class today
are you not feeling well??

rahmah

Anonymous said...

rahmah is right madam..
i can't stand myself to discuss about dis topic..

wanabila..

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Anonymous said...

oh this topic is so interesting.
i'm kinda like the statement 'better single than sorry'.

it shows that women are appreciating themselves. :)

wani.g5

Anonymous said...

oh this topic is so interesting.
i'm kinda like the statement 'better single than sorry'.

it shows that women are appreciating themselves. :)

wani.g5

Anonymous said...

where have you been all this day
and who are you
introduce yourself please
so that i can easily point you out

Anonymous said...

is this teamwork assgmnt..??



~Mr. X~

Anonymous said...

yeh you are right
so which one you prefer single or couple

wan i think you prefer to be couple!

rahmah

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Anonymous said...

there is no point that u wanna point at me k..

Anonymous said...

mr x
it your choice you can either do it pair or individually

rahmah

Anonymous said...

you,re wrong rahmah..
actually i think i prefer like to be single..

how about u rahmah??

>wanabila<

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Anonymous said...

wan i prefer to live in single life
it give me full freedom
i can do whatever i want and with who im gonna go

i agree with Jennifer Schefft
she is right
we do not have to burden our mind with unnecessary things

rahmah

wanoraqila said...

haha yeah. woman are to be valued ;-))
anyway, i prefer myself to be single than couple. couple kan haraaam in islam.

Anonymous said...

yea..
right..
we can focus on thing that is more necessary compare to thing about others..that will give no rsult..

>wanabila<

wanoraqila said...

rahmah, i'm totally agreed with ur points!! congrats yea.

Anonymous said...

is there anyone that disagreed with this tpic..
i would like to know..
>wanabila<

Anonymous said...

yes couple is haram
but what about married and live with a man
are you ready with that?

that is why i said in my ls presentation that woman have everything
so this make they think that getting married is not something that they desire to have in their life

rahmah

Anonymous said...

Single is better than sorry...

I think it all depends on the type of person you are and how you look at things.

I think it depends mainly on who you are and what your characteristics define you as being.

For u information,i truely agreed that being single is the best.

1)First of all,it can make ourselves
more independent.

2)By the way,being single can make ourselves much comfortable.Be yourself,Don’t be something you’re not.We can stand in our own feet.

People will respect you a lot better for being honest and not something pretend.

3)In addition,if we're single,we can do better in all thing that we do without listening to others perspective and making such a nonsense decision.


Being single is not a curse and it is great to be single.




~Mamu~

Anonymous said...

hye, is is an argument or what?

a question one either we cHoose to be single or couple? ca anybody tell me wHat to do?

btw, i cannot use`H` freaquently, the key is broken

-kairi-

Anonymous said...

No woman..
No cry..

Anonymous said...

BETTER SINGLE THAN SORRY

We think that this is an interesting topic to discuss.Women nowadays prefer to be single because they want more freedom and privacy.They think that if they married they will have little freedom and privacy.This is because they have to share everything with their partners.They also have to get permissions form their husbands in doing everything they want.

nurul husna&nuranati zalikha

Anonymous said...

kairi..
what happnd 2 ur H button..??
r u eat tht button..??


~mAmU~

Anonymous said...

what the question??
better to be single than sorry..is it mean,instead of single do you prefer to get married or have a couple..im confused...single and married or single and couple????

Anonymous said...

wmen can have a better life without man..
i'm sure all of u will say that wmen need someone that can support them but that doesn't mean they need to get married or have a cple..
they can get the support from prents n friends..

>wanabila<

Anonymous said...

mamu, don`t ask me tat question , but tell me wat to do

-kairi-

btw, mullah is sleeping

Anonymous said...

Mamu,
I'm agreed with you that by being single we can do better in our life.It's true that some people said that we should listen to others but too much opinions will make the problems become bigger.

>husna<

Anonymous said...

kairi

you just have to give three point for your stand whether to be single or couple
this is sort of argument just like what we do before
like what mamu did

if i`m not mistaken we will discuss in class and do essay but i`m not really sure

rahmah

Anonymous said...

he is sleeping again..
wake him up..

Anonymous said...

who says im sleeping huh...
sigh...

mullah

Anonymous said...

we think that single is better because we can make our own decision.doesn't have to ask for anybody's opinion.also we dont have to take care of their feeling.

liyana&ayuni

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Anonymous said...

i dont agree with jennifer...
it seems like she has a bad experience with mans...
myb she was the leftover when she was in the college..
haha
or mayb....
shes a lesbian....

Anonymous said...

it is better to be single rather than couple because life is simple..we don't have to complicate our lives with these things such as coupling..as you know coupling invokes more problems than positve effects especially for the young couples..

zubeir......

Anonymous said...

is there anybody out there who wanna say tat being in couple is better tan single?its a tough question.but some might says "yes, why not"

but can you guys help me me & tell me, when u said that you prefer to be single, does it mea for te rest of your life? if im not mistaken, the book is about adult, being single, even wen all their friends are married,

im confused....

-kairi-

Anonymous said...

hello friends...!!
I have a question to ask...this topic is about women only or both man and women??? -ummi-

Anonymous said...

to khairi
i think u need a rest my friend...
this topic is not that confusing de...

Anonymous said...

i'm agree with kairi...

nabila

Anonymous said...

i need te answer to my question before making any conclusion

-kairi-

Anonymous said...

is single a bad thing?
we dont think so.
it is good to stand by yourself.
it will give you more confidence and independent.
we dont have to rely on anybody else.

liyana&ayuni

Anonymous said...

in my opinion..if it is for the rest of our life..,actually we need someone to be mr. or mrs right..
if it is for now..it is better to be single..because we have to focuss on what is the most important among all important things..
nabila

Anonymous said...

Jennifer is not a lesbian.If she is a lesbian she will not engage with Andrew Firestone.She just giving her opinion on being single is better.

>husna&zalikha<

athiraqila said...

pon pon ponnn..
here comes the two ladies who want to fight for the right ;-))

we prefer to be single for the time being as we think that being single is the best way to :

- focus on study (no need to think about unnecessary thing such as our partner's problem)

- get freedom and privacy (can escape from any fetters)

- prevent ourself from making sins (couple in Islam is forbidden)

Anonymous said...

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/16758432/

try to read tis

-kairi-

Anonymous said...

Assalamualaikum..

I'm still waiting for my partner Mr.Kajang..

hope he comes by in time..

By..Ican

Anonymous said...

to mamu...
I agreed with your points..
it's better to be single..life become worst if there is problems in a couple relationship.

ummi ;)

Anonymous said...

ummi,

we think that this topic is focusing on women.

(hye you down there..hehe)

faizah&wani

Anonymous said...

to kairi..

it based on what u think..
it dpnds..
if u think for the rest of ur life juz do it..
mdm said..
she will accept any answer..

>wanabila<

Anonymous said...

being single is sucks!
i disagree with jennifer's perception..

1st reason y being single is sucks is because u're going to die soon. i hate 2 say that you single folks are all alone in this world, with nobody 2 rely on but yourself ...
since you can't even rely on yourself, really.
See, even your body hates you for being single.Opinions vary on y single people r more likely to get sick and die. Some think it's because marriage offers moral support to get through the tough times. Others think it's just that a spouse is more likely to nag u into going to the doctor. Of course those r things you can counteract without getting married.
But that won't change the fact that married people have a better immune systems than you. They don't have to be happily married. Even divorced people are better at fighting off illness. It's like marriage is an all purpose vaccination that never wears off.

mullah

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Anonymous said...

so madame will accept my answer if i said that i have no idea?

haha, just kiddin

it is agreed tat being single is better tan couple, for student at our age because

-we can focus on our work
-will not waste time foolin around
-can leave unnecessary stress behind

-kairi-

Anonymous said...

owh...
for now on..its better to be single in terms of focus, independent and freedom..
thanks wan nabila bacause answering the question..:)
nabila

Anonymous said...

single will make yourself become easier.It's easy to manage ourselves as we don't have to worry about anybody.We can also spend all the money that we get only to ourselves.We can do whatever we want as we don't need anybody to give permission.

>husna&zalikha<

Anonymous said...

khairi,

your H is missing here & there.
thts very funny when we read it.
aha.

Anonymous said...

guys do agree with me???

to me, single men were viewed as being stupid and dishonest, and single women were more likely to be harassed or treated badly at restaurants.is it true?? In addition, time spent as a single is a lot like time spent in the bathroom. It's the most natural thing in the world, until you're there just a moment too long. But once you hit that point, there's no turning back. People start to wonder what's wrong with you. Gross images start popping into their heads. The next time they see you, you might smell a little funny to them. But hey, look on the bright side, at least nothing's actually wrong with you, right?

mullah

Anonymous said...

Assalamualaikum......
ladies and gentleman...
here comes ican with mr kajang

we didn't agree with the topic....

$$$being married can add our ibadah$$$
-there are a lot of ibadah that can be done by husband and wife such as wife has to serve their husband..
-wife who are being good to their husband will get reward from Allah...
-Isn't nice to have wife or husband and to have children and together we build a happy family.....

Anonymous said...

we dont have any different ideas bcoz all the ideas given are just the same with ours.

faizah&wani

Anonymous said...

sigh

told ya tat my `H` keys is broken

kairi

Anonymous said...

ok..being married is good, but many teenagers nowadays are more tend to just be couple..so, to avoid that, just be single...

Anonymous said...

mullah,
are you telling us your own life story?

ican & mr kajang,
is it being married is the only way to add our ibadah?


faizah&wani

Anonymous said...

better single than sorry
we totally agreed with this topic

1)can have a better life

-can focus more on something that is important
do not have to burden mind with ways to solve problems with our partner

2)can do whatever we want
full freedom

-when someone has partner in their life everything that they do, must think about their partner first
they should report or let their partner know where they have been and with whom they go out

3)can save our time

-we can focus more on our work
we do not have to remind our selves to pick up the phone
do not have to find time to go out with our date

to live in couple life we need honesty and trustworthy
if not you might fail in your relationship

wan n rahmah

Anonymous said...

khairi,
we know tht.just wanna tell u tht u give us entertainment.
ths all.

Anonymous said...

its better to be single than sorry because:

1)Especially for students..we can focus in our studies well and better.

2)able to do all things we want to do and can have the best time in our life

3)it helps people to be more independent

*LOVE YOURSELF AND NEVER SETTLE!*
=)

UMMI...

Anonymous said...

to faizah n wani,
nope,
its my opinion..

mullah

Anonymous said...

salam
everyone i just wanted to make sure that all members of g5 know about this ass
if you have their numbers please inform them
thank you

rahmah

Anonymous said...

Waalaikumusalam Mr.Kajang..glad u could make it..

Here's my idea..

I agree with my partner Mr.Kajang..
We are a great partner..

I want to ask u guys up there..
Why did ALLAH created Adam AND Hawa..and not HAWA or ADAM alone?

God created everything in pairs..
Moon with stars..
Earth with sky..
Night and day..
And..husband and wife..=D

You are lying if you say you don't dream about a happy family..

Even in the hadith our prophet said..

If you are considering Jennifer's opinion..you are accepting an idea from a person that has no islamic knowledge..

These western culture has been heavily infected by a sinfull attitude and opinion..

Tell me one islamic schoolar that opposes the happiness of a married couple?

Therefore,we should not use our logical thinking and little knowledge to oppose GOD'S will..

Intelligence by Ican.

Anonymous said...

we disagree to be single, n this can be futher explain in terms of:

*secure
*financial
*social

aqilah, nadzatul n wahidah
g5

Anonymous said...

to kairi..

you left the alphabet 'g' for fooling..

wan n rahmah

Teacher said...

Rahmah, don't get too excited and yes, I am not feeling well.

To all, What Jennifer Schefft defines being single as being not married. Most of you interpreted being single as in for now as you are studying. How about being single for the rest of your life? Schefft is stating that women are often hurt in relationship therefore, it is better for them to stay single than to be married and hurt one day.

Wani, in what way that women are appreciating themselves if they choose to be single forever?

Mr. X, there shouldn't be a Mr. X. You have to tell us who you are and give us your opinions.

Rahmah, again. Do you want to be single forever or you meant to remain single for now?

Wanoraqila, is is Haram to have a boyfriend or girlfriend as long as you do not succumb to doing things that Islam does not allow us to do?

Wanabila, I think you and Wanoraqila are focusing on coupling in general.

Mamu, I don't want to talk to you. But I like your points. I hope you are referring to being single for forever and not being single for the time being.

Khairi, too bad that your H key is broken. I understand your predicament. Don't worry. You will not be penalized for having broken H key.:)

Hey... who said no woman no cry??? Nonsense!

Nurul Husna and Nuranati, yes, most young and professional females prefer to stay single because they love the freedom and privacy. But, can we prove this? Has any studies been done to really identify the reason/s for women to remain single?

Anonymous said...

To Faizah and Wani..

It is true,not only marriage can add our ibadah.. but it is the an easy way for adults to do their ibadah in a more proper way and having fun while doing it..

From Mr.Kajang n Ican

Anonymous said...

foolon coolin screamin n yellin,

well, i use it i conversation, a lot

btw, wan nabila, zaini, atira n usna

i think tat we sould go to acc class,
its mottainai you know

thanks for your comment mdm

im otta here =)

-kairi-

Anonymous said...

i agree with mullah opinions,
frist of all if wee not married who going too continue our generations from extinct.second, if we not married where do we want to put our sex disire? this will lead to sex that not illegal,third you will fell lonely if not get married.even though you can find alot of friends, but not all friends are true friends and not all friends loyal with us when we on desperate.if you talk about to focus on what we want to achive until not get married it riddiculos,even you married you can actually if you cleaver in control your fellings and you time table.Example, how does today's women can achieve their ambitions even tough they have married and still pursuit to their career or ambitions and yet succeed to attain it?.Another thing how long do you want to live alone only because you want to enjoy your life? do you want to enjoy being alone until you become old? belive me you will regret.becaose you will not have chance to fell what like become mother and have children situations.i areed that having husband and kids make you lives more trouble,but wasn't trouble makes you live more meaningful?thinks about it...

zaini and zubair

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Anonymous said...

I think it is better for people who are still in studies to be single..

but,if that person age in about 27 and above,working and able to marry,it is better to find partner and being married...this can help to reduce social problems between man and women...

ummi...

Anonymous said...

mdm im still going to get married as it is sinful if im not

but i think married life is burdening

rahmah

Teacher said...

Mamu, stop teasing Kairi as he has broken H.

Anonymous.... we need to know who you are! It can be interpreted either way.

Wanabila, for how long can women rely on friends and parents to get support. One more question, what kind of support?

Kairi (for today, your name has no H), why is Mullah still sleeping? Wake him up please.

Husna, I agree with you. That is why, I think, when people got married, it is better for the couple not to involve parents when they have problems. In other words, don't you think it is better not to start a family of your own at all?

Liyana and Ayuni, you have very modern kind of thinking. We live in a society where we cannot escape from socializing with other people. In socializing, we also cannot escape from getting hurt and hurting others. It is a tough world indeed.

Anonymous, we can't say that Jennifer is a gay person. She could be straight. Leftover?

Zubeir, do you think if one day, you decide to get married, your life will complicated?

Ummi, let answer that. It applies to both men and women.

Liyana and Ayuni, I like the idea of being single makes you more independent and confident. But how can that be realized?

Nabila, true that it is better to be single now for you people who are still studying. How about for the rest of your life as suggested by the author?

Athiraqila, yes, good that you guys are thinking more on studying than other things in life.

Anonymous said...

until they get married..
because i also want to get married..
heheh..
support like in their carrier..

>wanabila<

Anonymous said...

To Jennifer(the author above)...

I'll commen on her topics and prove that her view is not islamic at all and is dangerous for us to believe in..

Don't Play Hard to Get - Be Hard to Get..
-This is not true..I think what she is trying to say is like "jual mahl" in BM..
-do you have to reject a sincere heart that wants to care for you in the name of ALLAH?

Basic Instinct - Trust Yours
-this girl is trying to be independent..Yes,it's good..but you cannot survive on your own all the time..Even woman need a man when they have a flat tyre..True right?

50 Reasons Why it's Great to be Single

-I know some of these reasons!
1)You can go clubbing every night!
2)You can have sex with whomever you want!
3)You can make your own silly decision without other people who care about you givving advice
-these reasons are for non-muslim thinker..
-Has she heard of a million reason Why it's great to be a happy family?..Including the possibility of going to heaven if you treat each other well?

Don't believe in an opinion if you don't have evidence to support it from your own beloved religion..

By Mr.Kajang N Ican

Anonymous said...

madam,
im not sleeping,
actually i have already post 4 or 6 of my opinions...

mullah

Anonymous said...

madam,
maybe not if it will bring more problems than happiness but yes if it is only to fulfill the human needs.

>husna<

Anonymous said...

to mr kajang n ican

what do u mean by:
Even woman need a man when they have a flat tyre..True right?

aqilah, nadzatul n wahidah

Anonymous said...

We are not agree to be single..Even in Islam, marriage is so important as it is declared to be one half of one’s faith.This can be proved by this "hadis":
A person who posses the means to marry (i.e. he is able to work etc. to support a wife and children) and does not marry then he is not from amongst us (i.e. the believers).’Another one: ‘Do not delay in three things; 1) The offering of the obligatory prayer. 2) The offering of the funeral prayer when the deceased’s body is present . 3) The marriage of a woman when her couple is found’
-juz 4 reference 2 all my mates

Qilah,Nazatul,Wahidah

athiraqila said...

rahmah. it is depends on the married partner. if they trust and understand each other, that wouldnt burdening. in fact, their life will be more meaningful. if u think marriage will give u many problems, u hve to consider this pepatah melayu,sedangkan lidah tergigit, inikan pula suami isteri. ;-))

Anonymous said...

to mr kajang n ican

you should include that behind successful man there is woman behind him

rahmah

Anonymous said...

To Siti Nur Aqilah,Nadzatul n Wahida..

We cannot understand your points..
Can you please elaborate?

From Mr.Kajang N Ican..

Anonymous said...

to zaini and zubair

we agree with both of u

aqilah, nadzatul n wahidah

Anonymous said...

we think that this topic has its pro and contra.

dear madam,what im trying to say is women's life not going to end if they have no partner.

-wani

faizah&wani

Anonymous said...

yes that pepatah can be accepted
but getting married is like gambilng

your partner would not be the same when before getting married and after getting married

rahmah n wan

Teacher said...

RAHMAh, good that you want to get married when the time comes. But are you sure you want to share your life with someone else?

Ican, you can do this on your own if you want.

Ummi, you agreed with Mamu? What about being married and having problems with your spouse? Isn't that the same?

Mullah, finally you have woken up. Anyways, you have done some research on the topic. Good! That shows that you were not sleeping. You were researching. We should discuss this in class later.

Kairi, again, some of my friends who are still single said they have different kind of stress for not being married.

Nabila, focus on what is more important in life which is to make the world a better place for all!

husna and Zalikha, I like the idea on you can do what ever we want without anyone's permission. I have heard that even if you are single, as a muslim woman, you still have to get permission from your parents.

Mullah, what do you mean? I like the metaphor you used. It is true that when you talk about male friends who are in their 40's and still not married, we will wonder whether there is something wrong with them.

Ican and Mr. kajang... a different opinion. From the Islamic perspective.However, you are only focusing on wife serving the husband, and wife being good will be rewarded by Allah. How about men serving their wives and being good to their wives. Why is the focus given to women only, dearest students of mine?

Anonymous said...

To Siti Nur Aqilah,Nadzatul nWahida..

So you agree..
then..
Do you girls hav boyfriends?

Unknown..

Anonymous said...

correction 4 the spelling..
gambling..
>wan n rahmah<

Anonymous said...

when im getting married,i don't think my life will complicated because at that time im sure that i'm so ready n matured to solve something in my life...

zubeir....

Anonymous said...

when im getting married,i don't think my life will complicated because at that time im sure that i'm so ready n matured to solve something in my life...

zubeir....

Anonymous said...

Madam..

For husbands..they are the leader of the family..
Therefore,it is their responsibility to look after his family..If not he will be sinfull..

Mr.Kajang Ican

Anonymous said...

making decision to share my life that make me think do i need man in my life?
i can stand on my own
but i can denied the nature of human being
so maybe for now getting married is not something that women desire to have

rahmah

Anonymous said...

to unknown..
why r u so curious to know??
r u going to sign in FOR THE LIST to be their BOYFRIEND??

wanabila n rahmah

Anonymous said...

rahmah,

by saying that, for now getting married is not something that women desire to have, does it means that u're not even think about marriage b4???

-mullah-

Teacher said...

Faizah and Wani.. a good question to be addressed to Mr. Kajang and Ican.

Wan and Rahmah, suddenly you guys are partners?

Ummi, your opinion, Love yourself and never settle. Do you really believe in that?

Ican, I have to disagree with one thing that you said in your comment. Western Culture has not been infected with sinful attitude and behavior. Accepting Jennifer's point of view does not make your friends less Islamic. Muslims are required to think for themselves. When Allah asks us to read, He does not ask us to read on the surface only. He wants us to think for ourselves too. Some muslims are able to live their lives doing good things for others even though they are not married. We are not opposing to the idea of believing marriage as a failed institution that oppresses women. We are just exploring ideas from different perspectives.

Zaini and Zubeir, you two have some strong argument. Without the institution of marriage, muslims are not allowed to procreate. Therefore, marriage is needed to build future generations. I also like your mature opinion, troubles make our lives more meaningful. Very philosophical. Would you like to change field of study? Philosophy maybe?

Ummi, now you are being more positive. being married can minimize social problems, eliminate vice among muslims. However, do not forget that domestic violence happen among married couples.

Anonymous said...

madam....for me if there are problems in marriage,the couple should discuss about the problem they have and try to solve it wisely..
ummi

Anonymous said...

yes we are partners from beginning..
but when we r arguing we smtimes individually..

wanabila n rahmah

Anonymous said...

yes im still thinking about that
but for women nowadays they are not desperate to get married

for me the only reason why women nowadays refuse to get married is they are successful.they are so busy with their work.sometimes they have historical that being leftover

i have teacher who is still not married until she resign

rahmah

Teacher said...

Ican and Mr Kajang, good that you are being critical about the author. I can change my own flat tyre.Everyone is entitled to have his or her own opinion. Do not be too judgemental.

Husna, point taken.

Qilah, Nazatul and Wahidah, I do believe that all of you girls are going to make good wives one day. So will Rahmah and the others who agreed with the topic.

Rahmah, Bravo!

Mr. Kajang and Ican, what is there not to be understood. They made it clear. Marriage is required in Islam.

Faizah and Wani, yes, true. Not everyone will find a partner in his or her life. Some are born to be single.

Anonymous said...

well guys, there's a lot to love about being single. You save money on Valentine's Day gifts, you get to meet new and interesting people and sometimes you even get to have s*x with them.
But it's not all knocking boots and freedom.
There are some aspects of single life that might, in fact, be seen as less than desirable....

mullah

Teacher said...

Time's Up. I am glad we have this meaningful discussion. I love it when my students are critical. We might or might not discuss this in class. For the girls, it is too soon actually to decide not to get married one day. Jennifer is representing women or men who at least once hurt by the one they loved. These people who hurt before have different opinion because they are talking from their own perspectives. People who have never been there before would say being married is better because of the factors that some of you successfully have included in the discussion. I think if everyone believe that people matter, everyone will not hurt other people. Only then we all can live either with families or not. If only people stop hurting each other, all of us can live happily on this earth and we all can perform our ibadah in whatever forms. Do you agree with me?

Thank you so much for being such great people!!!!

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Anonymous said...

i agreed with u madam..

>wanabila<

-out-

Anonymous said...

ahah,
rahmah is promoting her fb..
no offence...
juz kidding mate..

Teacher said...

Mullah... a cute opinion from you: Yes, you save a lot when it comes to Valentine's Day... but then who celebrate it? Unislamic, don't you think?

Anonymous said...

sigh...
4got about it,
sorry madam...

mullah

Anonymous said...

sorry 4 being late madam..

to mr kajang n ican...

*secure
we disagree 2 b single because if being single, u don't hv anybody 2 care at u anywhere u go..if u hv a husband,they can guide u n b ur body guard if u wanna go out 4 any purpose...at least, we can handle scary situation with someone, if u wanna futher ur study, ur husband r there 4 u to b with u, thus u'll feel safer than being alone...

*financial
apparently you pay more living costs as a single person than you would in a relationship,n u get less money to pay taxes as taxes r count by one house as one person.besides,we can use two income rather than just one income to survive as sharing is caring,caring is loving.

*social
in social aspect, we'll feel left out, bored and awkward when hanging out with couples. besides we can reduce the tendency to being disturbed by any guys out there cause we have our husband to protect us. in addition, we can prohibit ourselves from doing "maksiat" or free social life style..

aqilah, nadzatul n wahidah

Anonymous said...

Madam..

Hope u will get well soon..

Miss u..

:-)


~MaMu~

Anonymous said...

Madam..

Hope u will get well soon..

Miss u..

:-)


~MaMu~